With summer holidays just around the corner, life can get even busier for many of us. Today, I want to discuss an often overlooked yet incredibly important topic: the joy of accepting help.

Many of us feel pressured to do everything independently in our fast-paced world. We often believe that seeking help is a sign of weakness or incompetence. However, embracing assistance can lead to profound benefits for our mental well-being and overall success. Let's explore why accepting help brings joy and how it can transform our lives, especially regarding our wellness.

The Societal Stigma Around Asking for Help:

Many cultures promote the idea of self-reliance, often leading us to shy away from asking for support. Did you know that nearly 70% of people avoid seeking help due to fear of judgement? This societal stigma can prevent us from achieving our full potential and enjoying meaningful connections with others. However, as Charlie Brown said, "Asking for help isn't weak; it's a great example of how to take care of yourself."

The Emotional and Practical Benefits of Accepting Help:

Asking for or accepting help can significantly reduce stress and increase happiness. When we allow others to assist us, we share our burdens and lighten our emotional load. Moreover, by accepting help, we are also providing others with an opportunity to be supportive and compassionate, which can be incredibly fulfilling for them. Think back to a time when you were able to help someone—remember how rewarding that felt? Accepting help isn't just about our needs; it's about fostering a community where everyone feels valued and connected.

I remember during my studies to become a Pilates Instructor and Sound Relaxation Therapist, running my regular mindset coaching and hypnotherapy sessions and preparing to launch fitness classes and preparing The Wellness Studio to host these. Between studying, marketing my services, and managing my coaching clients, I felt utterly overwhelmed, especially with all the other 'Mummying' and 'adulting' responsibilities. One day, I realised I needed help. I needed to outsource some tasks to maintain my sanity and focus on what I do best. So, I hired a cleaning service and a gardener to care for my home. This may sound extravagant to some, but the cost was less per hour than I could earn from my coaching services, effectively buying back my time and joy. Additionally, I encouraged my children to help with household chores. This not only lightened my load but it's also taught them valuable responsibilities and life skills.

I started to say " yes please" to all offers of help. Accepting this help made such a difference. It allowed me to focus on creating a quality experience for my clients. It brought a profound sense of relief and gratitude into my life, reassuring me that accepting help is not a sign of weakness, but a step towards a more fulfilled and connected life.

 Actionable Tips on How to Accept Help Gracefully:

1. Be Open to Offers: When someone offers help, consider their genuine intention to support you. "Yes, please" is a great phrase!
2. Communicate Clearly: Express your needs and how the person can assist you best.
3. Show Gratitude: Always acknowledge and thank those who help you, fostering a positive exchange.
4. Reciprocate: Offer your help in return when you can if it creates a balanced and supportive environment.

Sometimes, People Don't Know How to Ask for Help:

If you're struggling to find the right words to ask for help, here are five ways you can reach out:

1. "Could you help me with [specific task]? It would really make a difference for me."
2. "I'm feeling overwhelmed with [task/issue]. Would you mind lending a hand?"
3. "I need some support with [task]. Could you assist me?"
4. "Your help would mean a lot to me while I work through [task/issue]. Can you help?"
5. "I'm trying to manage [task] and could use some help. Are you available?"

Embracing help is not a sign of weakness but a step towards a more fulfilled and connected life. Joy is often found in the connections we make and the support we give and receive.

Here's a thought to leave you with: 

As the summer holidays approach, where are you struggling right now, and what areas of your life could benefit from some support?

Take a moment to brainstorm five ways to feel more supported, and think of three people you can contact for help or 3 methods you can employ.

You have the power to create a more balanced and fulfilling life by accepting help when you need it. It's a decisive step towards transforming your wellness and life.

Cheering you on to wellness success,